I had this post scheduled but it didn’t work…yada yada yada. Let’s get started.
If you’re returning to the same school that you attended last year, reconnecting with old friends can be really stressful. You don’t know who got in fights over the summer and if they’re talking to each other, or who likes who, or who doesn’t like who. It can get very complicated. My main advise for situations like that is don’t get involved. I know, that sounds sorta insensitive but that’s all you really can do. Unless it involves you, don’t get sucked up in all of the drama. Try to be as helpful and supportive as possible, but keep your distance. If you do that, your year will be a lot smoother than it would have been if you had tried playing Dr. Phil for all your friends.
If you are going to a totally different school this year where you don’t know anyone, it can be really scary. What I tend to do in a situation like that is distance myself. I don’t try to make any friends and just go full on loner mode. That is the wrong way to go about it. A better way to approach it is introducing yourself to some of your classmates. You probably think that I’m insane but trust me, it works. It shows people that you’re interested in making friends and that you’re approachable. And if anyone seems to have a problem with you being friendly, that’s their issue, NOT YOURS.
So if you’re going to be the new kid or returning to your old stomping grounds, it tends to be a bit stressful. But just remember to stay true to yourself and surround yourself with people that make you happy. If you do that everything will be just fine.
Thanks for listening,
School. It’s this thing that the government makes you go to every day to learn stuff. I know, it sounds awful. So that’s what I was doing when I wasn’t posting for Lord knows how long. But I’m back and better than ever. Well, that’s a lie. I’m back, but I don’t know about the better part. I WILL BE POSTING EVERY WEDNESDAY, I SWEAR. I know I said that last time, but I really mean it. If you’re still here, thank you for being patient.
Back to you not so regularly scheduled programming.
So to kick off the month of August, I thought that I would remind most of you that it’s time to go back to school. It’s okay, you can boo. Maybe even throw an imaginary tomato. You may be dreading the beginning of school for some of the same reasons that I am: self esteem, friendships, and bullies. So, I thought that I would try to talk about these things in hopes of helping you, and as some form of therapy for me.
The main form of bullying that I’ve experienced is the classic name calling and teasing. A lot of people make fun of me because of my height, my race, the way I talk, basically everything that I can’t change about myself no matter how hard I try. But that’s the thing, they’re teasing me about the things that I can’t change because that’s all they really know about me. Think about it – if they knew you the way that your friends and family do, they’d talk about things that are way more personal than just your height. So this is the way that you can fight it. The next time someone makes fun of you because of your height, weight, race, etc. , just remember that they don’t know a thing about you. And because of that, their words mean nothing. I know that that doesn’t make it hurt less, but it definitely helps ease the blow.
I hope this helps you as much as it’s helped me.
Whenever I pick up a magazine that is supposed to be for teenage girls, these are the types of things that I see:
How To Make A Guy Notice You!
Makeup Tips That Will Definitely Catch His Eye
Things guys Love In a Girl
…and so on…
The main problem that I have with these is that they are all saying the same thing; change yourself to be acceptable, because right now you’re not even close. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for feeling good about yourself, but there’s a line that is often crossed. One side of that line is enhancing what you have, and the other side is hiding who you truly are. I don’t want to believe that the only way that I’ll find someone is if change who I am so that I’ll be acceptable. Because in reality, they wouldn’t be in love with me, they would be in love with who I was pretending to be. So I’m not saying that you shouldn’t wear makeup at all, I’m saying that you should wear enough to cover what you want it to cover, but not too much so that you can still show who you really are. Because you aren’t like everyone else, and you should take advantage of that.
Thanks for listening.
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