It’s not technically Wednesday, but it’s nighttime so it’s still Wednesday in my brain 🙂
This is the last installment of my back to school series and let me just say that it’s been fantastic. Seriously. Today we’re going to talk about self esteem. Ahh this takes me back to when I first started. If you’ve been following my blog for a while now you know how I feel about body image and self esteem already. If you haven’t, shame on you. But since I’m a good person, I’ll break it down for you.
As kids while we’re growing up, we have this unreachable standard drilled into our heads. Girls and their super skinny Barbies and boys with their ultra buff G.I. Joes and superheroes. Because of this, by the time we’re all grown up, if we’re not living up to this standard we feel like crap. It sucks. Now, I’m about to say something hella cheesy so brace yourself.
You don’t have to be perfect. You’re great just the way you are.
This has taken me a really long time to accept and I still struggle with it everyday. I just take it one step at a time, and so should you.
So when you walk into school on the first day, just remember that there’s no one like you and that’s a good thing because if there was there’d probably be an overload of fabulousness.
Thanks for listening,
I had this post scheduled but it didn’t work…yada yada yada. Let’s get started.
If you’re returning to the same school that you attended last year, reconnecting with old friends can be really stressful. You don’t know who got in fights over the summer and if they’re talking to each other, or who likes who, or who doesn’t like who. It can get very complicated. My main advise for situations like that is don’t get involved. I know, that sounds sorta insensitive but that’s all you really can do. Unless it involves you, don’t get sucked up in all of the drama. Try to be as helpful and supportive as possible, but keep your distance. If you do that, your year will be a lot smoother than it would have been if you had tried playing Dr. Phil for all your friends.
If you are going to a totally different school this year where you don’t know anyone, it can be really scary. What I tend to do in a situation like that is distance myself. I don’t try to make any friends and just go full on loner mode. That is the wrong way to go about it. A better way to approach it is introducing yourself to some of your classmates. You probably think that I’m insane but trust me, it works. It shows people that you’re interested in making friends and that you’re approachable. And if anyone seems to have a problem with you being friendly, that’s their issue, NOT YOURS.
So if you’re going to be the new kid or returning to your old stomping grounds, it tends to be a bit stressful. But just remember to stay true to yourself and surround yourself with people that make you happy. If you do that everything will be just fine.
Thanks for listening,
Gather ’round kids, mama’s gonna tell you a story.
Disclaimer: This may be a bit depressing at times, but it gets better in the end, as all things do.
Let’s start at the beginning.
Up until 5th grade I was homeschooled by my amazing mother. Now I wasn’t the stereotypical homeschooled kid with pale skin, poor social skills, and way too much time on their hands. I was just the slightly stereotypical homeschooled kid with poor social skills and way too much time on their hands, but I had wonderful skin. Then life got a little bit crazier, my mom was diagnosed with kidney failure when I was about 8 years old. As she got sicker, she taught me some of the most important life lessons I’ve learned to date, and for that I am extraordinarily thankful. But on June 19th, 2010, she passed away. I was devastated. As my dad and I were trying to figure out how to function, I realized that I had no one to homeschool me anymore, and so did my dad. So that fall I attended my first real school. I was so excited. In the midst of everything that was happening I thought that this would be my saving grace, but instead I was met with bullying, loneliness, and ultimately depression. I felt that I had no one who understood what I was going through, I felt incredibly and terrifyingly alone. Now fast forward 3 and a half years. Here I am writing on my cellphone and 11 o’clock a night, talking to you. I started this blog so that I could talk to girls who felt just as alone as I did. I had my dad there, but I know that some of you don’t, so I want to be there. So whatever you’re dealing with, I’m here. That’s all for now.
Thanks for listening
Huge hugs, Catherine
Ok so I know I haven’t written in a while, you have every right to be upset. The tone of my blog will be shifting a bit for reasons that I will explain later. Anyways, I’ll be writing entries every Wednesday starting next week. Thank you so much! See you guys soon!
Whenever I pick up a magazine that is supposed to be for teenage girls, these are the types of things that I see:
How To Make A Guy Notice You!
Makeup Tips That Will Definitely Catch His Eye
Things guys Love In a Girl
…and so on…
The main problem that I have with these is that they are all saying the same thing; change yourself to be acceptable, because right now you’re not even close. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for feeling good about yourself, but there’s a line that is often crossed. One side of that line is enhancing what you have, and the other side is hiding who you truly are. I don’t want to believe that the only way that I’ll find someone is if change who I am so that I’ll be acceptable. Because in reality, they wouldn’t be in love with me, they would be in love with who I was pretending to be. So I’m not saying that you shouldn’t wear makeup at all, I’m saying that you should wear enough to cover what you want it to cover, but not too much so that you can still show who you really are. Because you aren’t like everyone else, and you should take advantage of that.
Thanks for listening.
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Here’s the scenario; you’re in a clothing store leisurely browsing, when you see the most amazing shirt that you have ever seen in your entire life. That might be a slight exaggeration, but you get the point. Anyway, you pick up the gorgeous shirt and you notice that they have it in your size and you take that as a message from the Lord himself saying that you are meant to have this shirt. You practically sprint to the changing room super pumped to try it on, but when you put it on you feel like a potato squeezed into a Chinese finger trap. And you feel absolutely awful. This has happened to me WAY too many times, and I feel worse and worse every single time. What I’ve learned is that if you were to get different shirts that were all the same size but from different stores, they’re not going to be the same. One may end up being smaller than the other or vice versa. I say all of that to say that if you end up walking out of a store feeling bad about yourself, it’s not your fault. You shouldn’t have to force yourself to fit into the extra small mold that society has provided, make your own. The world that we live in is definitely not one size fits all, everyone is different. We should not be punished by a piece of fabric for being unique. By this point you might be saying “It sounds like you’re telling me that I’m anything but normal.” I’m actually saying the exact opposite. Society’s normal is bland, characterless, colorless, and lifeless. But in my opinion a girl who is normal is herself, she doesn’t perfectly fit into the mold because she is different. She faces whatever problems she faces. You may be the type of girl that doesn’t have to deal with the problem that I’m talking about and that’s totally fine, that’s normal for you. Normal is different for everyone because no one is the same.